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My friend Marc — a single dad my age — and I like to share dating war stories.Recently, he giddily kept me posted on the pre-first-date chemistry he shared with a woman he met online. “We talk every night on the phone and it is frightening how much we have in common.
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Cliche but true: The more you are true to yourself, the more likely you will find someone who loves you just the way you are.
Also very cliche, and also very true: There is someone out there for everyone. Before any particularly promising first date with someone I meet online there is always at least a glimmer of: “I hope he’s not disappointed when he meets me in real life.” When I first started dating in earnest about a year ago, I was headed out on one such date with a hot movie executive who spent his vacations traveling around the world surfing — and also seemed super-cool and smart.
Pre-date flirting was high, and before I headed out, I fussed in front of the mirror.
Re: c) — your looks have everything to do with how a guy feels about you. Men are far more visually driven than women for all kinds of anthropological, biological and cultural reasons. Yes, there are times when men fall in love with a woman who is completely not his physical type because her beautiful soul shined so brightly that it blinded him to her overt physical shortcomings. How can you connect with a guy in person when they won’t even click on your profile pic? But misleading a guy into dating you isn’t the solution — and it only perpetuates the societal message that only thin chicks are datable.
But that is not likely to happen when his first impression is that you are a liar who wasted his perfectly good happy hour with your manipulation. While there are so many unrealistic expectations of women to maintain a certain body type, lying about your body type only sets back the movement. The second you start lying, you shame yourself and you block your ability to find love.
When you post selfies from eight, pre-baby years ago, your opening line is: “I am ashamed of who I am.
I am unlovable.” When you market yourself with shame, you deny your ability to be vulnerable — and connect with a man in a real and intimate way.
I’ve heard the same story — usually not as kindly — from lots and lots of guys. Of course people lie in their online dating profiles every day of the week: Men say they’re younger and richer. ] Now, I get that you’re not feeling good in your body.
Pics posted online depicting a woman who is much smaller than the one who walks — shockingly, 30 lbs heavier — into a bar. Omissions of children and spouses — not to mention STDs and bad breath. Check out this online message a 35-year-old software developer (with cute pics) sent me today: Your profile is awesome, but I don’t think I’m at a point in my life where I can get involved with someone who has kids. [I then added a couple full-body shots to my profile, and thanked him for the tip. You’re lonely and you know very well that few men like very heavy women.
But suggesting you are much smaller than you actually are is the dumbest lie in the world – the jig is up the second you walk into the Starbucks. I hesitated to write this, since I could have just said nothing, but decided to write you as encouragement. I sympathize with women who find it hard to meet men — even online — for this reason.
I know exactly what you tell yourself: a) “Those pictures really are me, so it’s not a lie.” b) “Dating profiles are advertising, and advertising always shines the most flattering light on a product.” c) “He just gets to know me and then he’ll fall for the real me — which has nothing to do with how I look.” a), b) and c) — all lies you’re telling yourself, sweetie. Yes, you should depict yourself in the best possible light — but the SEC has laws against misleading advertising for a reason. If you live in a big market like I do — New York City — there are so many people, and so many classically people.