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I find the vast, vast, vast majority of men unattractive.
Mostly it’s that I don’t have any physical attraction to them, but once in a while (about twice a year if I’m on a lot of dating sites, or once every few years if I’m not), I’ll meet someone I actually think is good looking (a hint here is that I find most celebrities physically unattractive, apparently my sex drive is picky but I couldn’t tell you why – although I DO have a high sex drive…).
Just read what you wrote to me: “(I) avoid intimacy by going out with people I don’t find attractive.” Sorry, but I want to challenge that assertion.
Your issue, in this instance, isn’t lack of confidence; it’s something that runs much deeper, something you only hinted at when you say that your family “messed you up.” Without knowing you, I have to concur.
Very attractive woman – a 43-year-old personal trainer who hated online dating for the very reason you mentioned. When we went through the website to take inventory, I asked her to put 40 guys on her favorites list. The only 6 guys she found attractive looked like 32-year-old GQ models whose preferred age range was 22-29.
My client was pretty much out of luck because she found less than 1% of men attractive, including NO men her own age who wanted her in return.
I saw that as the woman making a mistake or being stupid enough to fall for a guy like that.
I didn’t know that she could actually feel attracted to him for OTHER reasons.
Some of the many ways that you can attract women are with your confidence, charisma, charm, humor and masculine vibe. Before I discovered what I now teach here at The Modern Man, I was going through life assuming that beautiful women couldn’t like me because I wasn’t good looking enough. When I interacted with beautiful women, NOTHING that I was saying and doing was making them feel any attraction because all I was doing was talking to them in a nice, friendly way and expecting to be LIKED for it.