Dating secrets in your 40 s
Perhaps you were in a live-in or long-term relationship that ended, so you’re single again.
As a dating coach for women over 40, I know finding love the second time around (or even the first) is not easy.
Finding the love of your life will take time and it will take patience.
Even though you may have become single quickly, perhaps through a divorce, finding and becoming part of a new relationship will not happen so immediately. I was gainfully employed, had all my teeth and (grey) hair. What I realized is that I didn’t get any responses because I was aiming at the wrong target.
Imagine my surprise when they did not come immediately. I would log in each morning, right after my workout, and see the empty Inbox and I would die a little inside. What you need to realize is that this is a long term game.
Your journey begins with one step, and it will continue with a thousand more in front of you. — I thought that I was quite a prize when it came to the online dating scene. When you are over 40, the days of dating 20 year old women are gone.
Prepare yourself for this, because it’s inevitable. Those days are saved for guys who are in the midst of a mid-life crisis and trust me, it’s not going to end well.
The invitations became fewer and far between, and then they stopped. Phone calls for a second date always got recorded on their voice mail. There comes a time in the hero’s life where he must learn the tools and lessons necessary to overcome the wasteland, to overcome the invisibility that has surrounded him.
Like the hero above, I knew that something was wrong, but I didn’t know how to fix the problem and heal myself. He must learn the lessons, and come back and teach those lessons to others.♦◊♦I have returned with the elixir, and I am here to bear witness that we can all be healed.
Maybe you’re divorced and frustrated with dating or haven’t ventured back out to the dating pool.