Dating after 4 months dating a fisherman
They figure I have so much more to gain than to lose by trying.
If I got a firm no, I'd definitely go NC from there.
- She acknowledged that she could be making a big mistake. I deliberately took things slowly in light of her limited relationship history.
- She said it's probably the last thing I want to hear, but she would like to stay in touch if I would. I've been in some serious ones myself, so I never wanted her to feel rushed and tried to go at a pace that I felt she might be comfortable with.
Ask her to get a quick drink this week and take a chance with the talk. Wait it out with 3 weeks of NC (or more) and then meet up with her for the talk. Wait it out for a few weeks, get back in touch, and try to let the "connection" she was talking about happen naturally by casually seeing her and having a good time (if she's up for this).
Thanks a lot for taking the time to read this, and for any suggestions.
However, a few nights ago, she viewed my online dating profile on the site we met on. I have a few friends that are insisting I should casually reach out to her next week and send a brief text or email asking if she has time for a quick drink.
This was surprising to me, especially since she'll know I was able to see that she looked. They think I should tell her I know exactly where she was coming from, but to point out the reasons I thought caused this and to show the fact that I'm committed to doing anything to making things work, even if it means sacrificing some pride.
As for keeping in touch, I told her I'd need some time to think about that and see how I feel before I could make a decision.She's 29 (I'm 31) and has gone on a number of first dates, second dates, etc., but never for as long as things lasted with me.I know this is unusual and a lot can be made of it.You can see facial expressions and body language on someone else that just can't be faked sometimes, and I saw this on her whenever we were intimate together.- Believe it or not, our three month experience was the longest relationship she's ever had.
It seemed like she went into the conversation determined to end things and I wasn't going to jump on a pity offering that could have come out of weakness at the time.