Really, when it comes to love, they got it going on. (Also see “.”) I also like the sand-dwelling wolf spider. It’s described in Chapter 6, “The Choosy Bachelor.” Here’s this female who has to go into the man cave and wiggle her legs.They cozy up with each other, they develop their own special language … If he likes how she does that, he gives up his home for her and puts himself at risk.

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(.) The old advice that you should get to know someone before approaching her as a love interest? Among the chacma, yellow, and olive baboons, lower-ranking males will often befriend a female, protecting her from bullies and babysitting her offspring sired by dominant males.

When it comes time to mate again, the baboon female will often choose her buddy, the lower-ranking male.

Verdolin, an animal-behavior expert at the National Evolutionary Synthesis Center in Durham, North Carolina, says we can learn a lot from animals in our quest to find the ideal mate.

We recently caught up with Verdolin to learn how her book came about. I’m absolutely passionate about animals, and I’ve always wanted to give people a way to relate to animals. That’s a basic motivation for everything I do, whether it’s in science or in writing.

I thought of all of the ways in which animals have similar courtship and mating rituals and deal with the same problems that we deal with.

For example, people might think, “Oh, wow, barnacle geese date many geese before they find their special goose”—it’s very similar to what we deal with.

I like how you integrate your personal experiences—especially with dating—in the book. As a scientist I do experiments all the time, so I took this scientific, objective approach to dating for a while.

Every time I went on a date, I was taking the animal perspective.

I didn’t intend to incorporate my personal experiences initially, but then the similarities and parallels were just so clear that it seemed wrong not to.